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Submitted by editor_en on Mon, 02/18/2008 - 14:06.

It's the question everyone with a heart wants the answer to.

Just how can you dump someone and minimise the pain?
It's a tough one, and it's never going to be an easy one.
We can start by telling you how to definitely NOT do it! Big NO NOs for dumping are:

By text message
"Sorry I can't see you anymore"
"It's not you, it's me, but it's over"
"I do love you but it just isn't working"
etc etc... never do this - it makes the other person feel pretty worthless.

By just not returning their calls
This is just plain mean, the other person might not even realise anything is wrong. You'll be making a fool out of them as they repeatedly try to contact you.

By Phone
This is sometimes acceptable, but most times isn't! Even though you're feeling bad about what you're doing the person you're dumping can't see that... all they hear are your words - and that's not good.

So how do you do it?

Tell us below what you think...

Here at Staying Alive, we think the best thing to do is meet up with the person and explain how you're feeling. This is good for two reasons - firstly, it shows you care and secondly, you may even discover the issue you had isn't even a problem - by talking honestly you might even end up sorting out your problems!

Your comments


Trypsinoge(Uganda) , June 07th, 2008 - 10.42
Make them dump you
Its easy, u do the worst things such that u force her to dump you. It may take long but eventualy, it will work..
Anonymous(Australia) , April 01st, 2008 - 06.43
breaking up
There is and never will be an easy way to break up with a person. If you dump someone chances are they are going to be upset, otherwise they wouldnt be with you if they felt nothing, and no matter how nicely you say it or how you tell a person they will still hurt just as much.
harata , March 24th, 2008 - 04.37
breaking up
i think that breaking up with someone one is always going to be something thats hard to do but sometimes its the only way you can move on and be happy.something you should never do is make one of your friends break up with them thats really really sad. just meet up with them and explain how your feeling and why you feel that way and maybe they will find it easier to except.
Raphaela Rainer(Austria) , March 09th, 2008 - 19.26
Breaking up a relationship
Breaking up a relationship by long-distance communication like SMS is cowardly! In order to show respect for your future ex-partner and your past relationship, meet each other and take the time everyone needs to say goodbye, show emotions etc.
Anonymous(Scotland) , March 05th, 2008 - 00.55
I say the best way is to
I say the best way is to meet them go somewhere private where no1 can see you. so that if the other person cries there is no embarrasement. its less hurtfu because it shows that you still care about them.
anai(Belgium) , February 18th, 2008 - 20.23
dumping
i dont think there is a nice way to dump some one !

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